Table of contents of the article series

  1. Introduction
    The first part of this series is generally about skills, where they come from and into which categories they can be classified. There is also a list available for download.
  2. 5 senses or how perception affects us
    The second part of this series deals with the question of how strongly our feelings and thoughts are influenced by our senses and perception and how we can use them effectively for ourselves.
  3. Find the perfect skill
    In the third part of this series, I ask myself whether there is a perfect skill or whether we will always be on the lookout.
  4. My top 10
    In the fourth part of this series, I will go into more detail about my ten favorite skills and put together a top 10 for you.
  5. Emergency kit
    The fifth part of this series goes into more detail about the emergency kit and what exactly it is all about. In addition, I show examples of how to fill such a case.


Top 10 Skills

1. Talk

My absolute surest skill is talking and that’s why it’s in the top 10 list. After that I usually feel much better. It’s a good feeling to know that you have people to talk to when you need to. I know that it’s not always easy to talk to others about your own problems, but it will certainly do you good.


2. Relax

If I catch the right time, I can regenerate myself through targeted relaxation. I prefer to use an acupressure mat for this. This is a mat made up of many small plastic spikes that stimulate blood flow in the body. Since I am also often plagued by neck, back and sciatica pain, the mat can also give me relief here.

It has become a daily routine for me to relax on the mat for 20-30 minutes after work. I use it to separate my time at work from the time I have free time. However, depending on my exhaustion, I sometimes fall asleep on the mat, so an alarm clock is highly recommended.

Below is a link to my acupressure mat, which is sustainable in production and I can therefore recommend it to others.

ShaktiMat Akupressurmatte *


3. Playing video games

I like playing video games. Immersing yourself in other worlds distracts you from everyday life. It doesn’t matter whether you’re alone or in pairs, whether it’s a role-playing game, shooter, action adventure or fun racer. The main thing is that it’s fun and takes my mind off things.

I was introduced to video games when I was a child. Starting with the C64 and Windows 95, I got my own Game Boy as a kid and later a Super Nintendo. Followed by your own PC, PS1, PS2, PS3, Wii and PS4. Nevertheless, the Super Nintendo with the game Super Mario World is the total childhood memory for me and still absolutely recommendable.


4. Doing sports

Sport always helps, doesn’t it?

There are phases when I feel like working out and then there are phases where I have to motivate myself extremely. In general, everyone will probably know this, but if you just want to lie around and have no motivation, it’s a little harder. Luckily my wife can then motivate me and together it’s twice as much fun.

Yoga is great for relaxation and flexibility. After a yoga session I actually always feel reborn. Just a great feeling.

Bouldering is climbing at a height of a few meters without protection. Mats cushion falls. This sport includes everything I need to be able to disconnect from everyday life. You need strength, full concentration and courage.

If the weather is nice, I also like to ride my MTB and longboard and I have to go jogging again. With so many interests, it’s easy to lose track and sometimes it’s not so easy to choose the right one.


5. Go for a walk

Why not just go for a walk?

Helps, is good and always a good thing in combination with “Point 1 – Talking”.
Just try it!


6. Be creative

Drawing, painting or modeling is a mega skill for me. It also doesn’t matter at all whether you’re creative or not. It’s just about the distraction and it’s really huge. Meanwhile, the time flies by and at the end you can hold something homemade in your hand. Great!


7. Antistress-Toys

You can mainly find anti-stress toys at work. I also have some at home, but they are used less often because I prefer to use other skills there.

I use a variety of anti-stress balls, including a hand-sized, very firm, Standard Knautschi and a smaller, light-colored rubber ball in the net.

Of course, a hedgehog ball should not be missing. I use a small, hard variant that fits my hand very well and a ring that I can use to massage my fingers.

If you can’t decide, check out this set here.

Anpro 24 Stück Anti Stress Spielzeug Set *


8. Puzzle

Jigsaw puzzles improve your concentration and it’s a lot of fun. We like to do puzzles together, it’s also great to spend time together in a different way. There is a right puzzle for everyone. Most of the time we decide on a 1000 piece puzzle, which somehow always has the perfect size.


9. Breathing exercise

The 4-7-8 method helps me against stress.

  • Inhale and count to 4
  • Hold your breath and count to 7
  • Exhale and count to 8


10. Solve Rubik’s Cube

There are several ways to solve a Rubik’s Cube. I have learned a beginner’s variant, for a speedcuber I would have to train a lot more. But it is enough to focus for a few minutes and escape from stressful situations for a moment.

Rubik’s Cube *


My name is Chris and I created Slowlow Lobster.
I write posts about mental illness. Topics that affect me personally, but also topics that contribute to clarification and the end of stigmatization.